Well-being update: Savoring and Gratitude

This weeks’ lessons were savoring and gratitude. Stopping to enjoy the little moments that you would normally let pass, and taking time to thank people in your life. Like everyone else we are on the go from Monday- Friday, so I thought hard about how I was going to incorporate this into my easymodern life. The course after all is supposed to bring joy and a sense of well being not tun into just another task to complete. This is how it went.

Savoring (v): the act of stepping outside of an experience to review and appreciate it.

The object of the lesson was to step into tasks that you do each week and savor them rather then just waiting for them to be over so you can move on to the next activity. Reflecting on my day I thought about the tasks that I did each day and concentrated on the ones that would not only improve my well- being but help to improve family connection. Ultimately I chose homework time. In all transparency I do not like this time of day. It’s hectic, a mad dash from school, to homework, to whatever after school activity that we have planned, to dinner, to bath, to reading, to lights out finally! This week as part of my well-being course I choose to think about this time of day in a different way and savor the moment rather then think about how fast I can get it done.

So on Monday after the easymodern kids got home from school I sat down at the table with them and instead of doing some work myself I put all electronics away and focused in on what was going on around me. We had milk and cookies and talked about the work they were doing, how their day went and about how they felt.

I was surprised to discover that rather they feeling a sense of anxiety about what I could be doing I felt calmer and more focused, I could block all that out for awhile and  focus on the moment and savor it.

Also as part of savoring I took time each day to notice something that brought me joy took a picture of it and at the end of the day reviewed the pictures. Here are some of the moments I captured this week.

Gratitude (n)the state of being grateful : Thankfulness

The gratitude part of the lesson was easier for me. I am naturally someone who thanks people, so it was something that was already a part of my day.  I just made sure that when I showed my gratitude that it was something from the heart rather than something that I simply did because I am naturally a polite person. One of the suggestions was to write letters to people whom you wish to thank. I didn’t write letters but I did write emails to teachers at the easymodern kids school the teachers are amazing and are not thanked nearly enough.

Another suggestion was to keep a gratitude journal. Write down things that you are thankful for each day and share it with another person. In full disclosure I did not do this as reliably as I should have. I wrote down a few things but wasn’t able to keep up like I should have. So while it did help me  focus on gratitude I don’t think I got as much out of it as I should have. I will continue to work on this next week.

Want to read more on savoring and gratitude? Try out these titles:

Thanks!: How the New Science of Gratitude Can Make You Happier Hardcover – August 6, 2007 by Robert A. Emmons (Author)

The Psychology of Gratitude (Series in Affective Science) 1st Edition by Robert A. Emmons (Editor), Michael E. McCullough (Editor)

Nudge: Improving Decisions About Health, Wealth, and Happiness Paperback – February 24, 2009 by Richard H. Thaler (Author), Cass R. Sunstein (Author)

Next week:

kindness

 

Stats for this week:

meditation    0

gratitude        14

savoring          9

kindness          7

connection      10

exercise            7

sleep                   4

goals                    3

Do I feel happier? Yes, I can say yes I feel happier this week.

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